I Trust You

The three most important words you will ever need in a relationship, in your religion, and in yourself is “I Trust You”

If you love her trust that she will always put you first and by doing this you will be caught when you fall, you will be cared for when you are sick, and when you and your partner are old fogeys sitting on the porch 50 years from now the foundational seeds of your love would have had their roots from seeds called TRUST.

Relationships start with two pods that float together and find a small sidewalk crack to call a home. Mathematically and through impossible odds they should never meet by chance, but they do, you do and when you do don’t let go hold on tight, it’s an amazing ride if you LOVE, TRUST and CATCH each other when you fall.

Men and Women Communicate Differently

I really can’t tell you, the number of times my wife has told me a story or explained a shopping list, only to have me bring home the wrong groceries or embarrass her at diner parties when I retell a story that I was not suppose to or worse incorrectly.

Men generally need simple facts, a simple shopping list without the recipe and don’t send us shopping on an empty stomach (we tend to buy anything that looks appetising ), we also tend not to notice the subtle innuendoes or markers that you say you had incorporate into a story that we should have picked up on.

If you need a hug tell us, if you need to talk about a friend or work issue, don’t wait for us to read into your sighs and deep breaths. If you need space or don’t want to cuddle tell us, men have two settings when it comes to love on and off, we are only too happy to accomodate all your needs if you communicate them directly.

“Man may have discovered fire, but women discovered how to play with it.”
Candace Bushnell, Sex and the City

A man can’t know what is to be a woman

If you think we were being insensitive as men, when you come home after having a bad day and we did not pick up on it, it’s because we simply dont look for complications or we are tired too or maybe we had a bad day, the bills are stressing us out or we havent eaten, we need the bathroom, there is something interesting on tv, the ball is in the air and about to be touched down, go through the hoop and we are sorry. We would like you to tell us you’ve had a bad day, and leave out the details. Men simply dont care about the dynamics of all the personalities that work in your office. We do however care about you, and by pouring a glass of wine settling in for a cuddle on the couch is something we do well. The idea that we need to be on the same emotional plain as you is ridiculous, we are however in the same house and by not expecting men to understand menstruating cramps, or the sensation of feeling bloated, can do wonders for any relationship.


Who runs the castle

I can’t imagine that anything has changed from the cavemen till now, we men go out do some hunting and come back to the cave to relax. It’s the one area of our lives that were we feel like that kid who stands at the top of the hill and controls the game “king of the castle”. We don’t like to be knocked down, we didn’t go into marriage to be controlled and have our masculinity slowly removed and replaced with a feminine version of ourselves . Each little pick, decision you make, room you reorganise, item you remove and argument you have to win, will only chip away at the rock you call a relationship.

A man wants to at least feel like he runs the castle, we know you do but don’t tell us. Let us think that some of the ideas behind the drapes and furniture was our idea. Every man wants a corner of the house where he can be himself no matter how crass or unrefined, put us in the shed if you must but allow us to express some of that raw caveman mentality. No matter what type of man, we all love to come home get onto that lazy boy turn the TV on and watch something that takes very little grey matter to understand.

All men go to work and do what they do, we sometimes choose the career and in other cases it chooses us, but understand we chose you the way you are and you fell in love with who we are.

The last outpost for some men
The last outpost for some men

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