I was sitting at a classroom table this morning during worship and noticed this little basket of crayons, a funny thing about this grouping of pencils is that it correctly reflects the social interactions of us humans. It seems that there is always that lonely pencil, all on its own, although similar in all its characteristics, it just does not fit the social basket, and always tends to look a little awkward as it puts on a brave face, other pencils gather in groups confident in their numbers and whether blunt or sharp they support and care about each other, and at the same time making all members of the group feel comfortable in their skin.
Then there are the minority groups although small in numbers they have their place and they certainly like all pencils add equal value to the basket and even though the other pencils want to put a wall between themselves and others. How far as a human race we have come and yet how far we still have to go in cultural relations and understanding of our fellow person.
In 22 years of teaching, there has always been one message year after year that I give my students “don’t let your past experiences dictate your future and do what you love, because you going to have to get up every morning and drive to that job, and if it’s not a passion you bound to fail”. There is nothing morning terrifying than having a family to feed a wife at home worried about bills and trying to keep a roof over your head, and on top of that going to a job that you hate, and not having alternative options. They say that you can change your career path, conquer the world, but when you’re stuck in the life’s mud, and all the animals around you are pushing you down, and you feel like you’re having an asthma attack, it’s quite difficult to find a path out.
So in saying that before life, tax, family and the colloquial animals get you down, chose your path early, study your passion, don’t let one teacher or even one year of bad experiences stop you from becoming that engineer, maths teacher, Mc Donalds Manager, building inspector or whatever your dreams, stop build the foundation today.
Step 1. Decide on a Goal / Job / Dream
Step 2. Plot steps to achieving it.
Step 3. Put that Dream someplace where you can see/ read it every day.
The other day I paused near a barbershop, sitting in the chair was an elderly man lying back relaxed, eyes closed and content. He was getting his beard shaved and his hair trimmed. A trip I’m sure he happily made each month, just to get away from life, you see men sitting in bars, casinos, delis, some men head into the bush to camp, other go. hunting, but one thing for sure men need to escape from life, we need a timeout. Now I know in this anti everything world we as men, we find ourselves having to apologise for everything from being straight masculine men to being Christian brothers, and this is the very reason we need to get back to basics and find ourselves.
If our partners would allow us, no afford us the time to be the men they married or chose as partners they would find that we would feel less claustrophobic and more inclined to feel satisfied with who we are.
We are not given a good life or a bad life. We are given a life. It’s up to us to make it good or bad.
If you see the road signs, detour ahead or road under repair do we not change directions, the biggest problem we have is that love is truly blind like an addict we are sometimes so deep on the thick of things we don’t realize we’re in trouble.
Now if you’re like the millions of normal people who worry about their weight and put in a honest days work for very little return you going to be part of a very large club of trying your best to be a good partner and staying on top of your mortgage and debt.
But and I start with but because if you going down a road and you can see the signs- debt ahead , heartache 100 meters or divorce . Stop look at what you doing cut the credit cards up, forgive and change your lifestyle.
Start by changing one small thing in your life each day. Today I cut up my credit card, tomorrow I am going to plan and stick to a budget.